Ok. Here is part of the truth. People think that:
A. Many BT’s are weird. A little off.
B. If you are a changing person, how is anyone to know how set you are in what you are doing now.
C. Some BT’s seem to be living in a different sort of world, where ideals replace realities. This is closely connected to A.”
Very true statement. Just to add a few comments.
When I was grow up, the only religious person I knew was my grandfather. By observing his way of life, I got an opinion, that religious people are SPECIAL people. Unfortunately, I still live with this opinion till today. And when in real life I see some ffb people, who not very honest in business dealing, not follow all, what they learn in yeshiva / kollel, it cause me almost a physical pain. Yes, I may look in your eyes weird, but did some ffb ever try to look on yourself by my eyes, when they cheat me in a store, telling offensive jokes about BT at the Shabbos table? If you try to emulate Avraham Aviny by doing kiruv, maybe (just maybe) you need to try to emulate his other midos as well.