Moq and Tomim tihye, your position: we have to have a system; okay, it unfairly hurts some people, but tough luck.
I am sorry, but this is wrong. How about fixing the wrongs? By doing some research, by going on a date and checking out a ba’al te’shuva, a girl from a broken home etc. Ve’ahavta le’reyacha kamocha!