Right, MDD, it’s a nice cliche, but doesn’t really mean anything.
In shidduchim you suppose to look for the best you can. Nekudah.
Yes, and it’s not fair.
And it’s what you are suppose to do. You are suppose to prioritize in a logical way. And yes, that many will fall between the cracks. But you still need to prioritize in a logical way. These is genuinely no other way to do it. You are suppose to go with a definite rather then something doubtful. Just like when you do anything else on earth, like hirer employees. It’s not fair, maybe the guy with a degree with CUNY is better then the guy from MIT. True. Maybe MIT guy got in because he was a legacy. But we still need to live in this world. Cliches don’t help. IYH, she will marry a fine Ben Torah, and her children won’t have this challenge.
Just because there’s a sad reality doesn’t mean there is someone to blame for it.