guardmytongue, you are right but I don’t start out that way. I fight back when people start to talk in an authoritative tone when they have no experience in the subject and keep insisting they are right. It hitzes me on, and then it goes ups a a notch depending how far the other person is willing to take it. I will follow their lead. When it is brought to my attention I always apologize and back down. But when someone goes after me personally I rise to the occasion because that has nothing to do with the subject at hand, that is a personal assault on an anonymous person that they know nothing about and just choose to assume they do. That is judgment in its highest form. Not only that but they choose not only to share it with others but to get them involved.
Not so far back as months ago, half these posts would have been edited or not have gotten through at all. It just shows how things have changed here. I personally am a very giving and helpful individual and I am involved in those kinds of chesseds. Anyone in my community including ALL the Rabbonim know what I do and how much I have accomplished. To have strangers who know nothing about me say cruel and insulting things to get my goat on a so called FRUM website is hurtful and will bring the fight out in me. Not everything is written in the way it is read. Not everything is said and written in the way another person interprets it when read that would all depend on the attitude of the person who reads it. Many times I read a post two or three times to see if I really understand the meaning of the poster and if they are being flip, sarcastic or just plain raw.
There are many times where I will just ignore, many times where I will respond and not send, and then many times that I will respond because I want to get my own message across. If I come across harsh that is not my intention. I am very sincere and gung ho when it comes to children AND when it comes to loshon horah about what other people do. As I said, everyone has their own Rav to discuss their own issues with and hearing all this bashing on this site will get my hakles up to defend them. Am I too sensitive because I am not even two months into aveilus, that could be, I am on the depressive side. Do I come back to the CR to find some solice here and to see if I can do something useful? Maybe that’s it to. Maybe I just came back to soon or don’t belong here to begin with. That’s up to me to figure it out.
But at any case if I came off aggressive and mean spirited to you I apologize it was not my attention in the general sense, maybe only when I was fending off an attack.