Mike:
Are you kidding?
What does it cost to rent a car, drive from lakewood to flatbush, then to manhattan, and buy drinks in a hotel lobby? At least $120.
Let’s say from queens, and no rental; still 40 for gas and lobby drinks.
How about lost productivity. How much is a day’s seder worth? How much is night seder worth? I have paid huge amounts of money to be on time for a zman in my day.
Dating is expensive. If the shadchanim and girls don’t understand that, they should find out.