OK, don’t get me started but now that you have here it is. The therapists that planted such ideas happened many, many, moons ago and things like that don’t happen anymore so PLEASE do not use that as an excuse to NOT report any possible situation.
I was one of the original founders of the JBAC and am very proud of that! Kudos to the board for sponsoring the week of prevention and education starting off in Chicago and ending in BP! Kudos for all the Jewish organizations who have finally come on board!
Things everyone needs to know. The reason molestation has been hidden and covered up for so long IS because those, especially those who are Rabbonim and Chashuv people could get away with it because of their positions. Exactly because “who would believe a kid over them”. Think about it. And not just any kid because molesters groom kids especially kids that NO ONE WOULD BELIEVE. Perpetrators are very smart and cunning. They don’t go after just anyone. They will choose kids that are weak or whose parents are weak. You don’t hear of kids from prominent homes or from Choshuv homes. No one would dare go after such a child because then exactly “who would you believe ben Rabbi so and so or Rabbi so and so? Or they would go after a friend’s child because no one would believe that he would do that to his best friend.
Molesters are evil and they should NEVER be run out of town, they should be locked up period! If they are run out of town they take their evil disease and inclinations with them only to hurt other children in their next location. Stop sending them onto new unchartered grounds. Stop protecting your own children at the expense of other people’s children. END their REIGN OF TERROR for good. Pedophiles can not be cured unless they are stopped after their first offense. There is only hope if you stop them and treat them right away. And yes when we say that molesters were molested themselves, we don’t give that information as an excuse. We give that information as awareness to show how it is a CYCLE and if you don’t stop it, you are only going to watch it continue in the future.
If one pedophile has 100 victims each of those 100 victims can have 100 victims in the future which will breed 1,000 victims which can multiply to 100,000 victims. Get it? So why has this been going on for 40, 50 years even longer? Because our Rabbonim chose to look away. They thought kids are resilient and they would bounce back. They didn’t have the means or didn’t choose to study the long term effects of molestation on kids as they grew up and actually find out what happened to them.
Today we know what happens to them and aside from them repeating those actions to others, their lives are ruined in other ways, many turn into homosexuals, many never have normal relationships, many never get married, many go OTD, some commit suicide. Many never recover to be successful in education or other areas in their lives. NO Rabbis, they are not resilient when it comes to this, they do not bounce back and they do not recover! So there is no reason to cover up for your friends and peers. There is no reason to have more rachmonus for the perpetrators and their families. Have rachmonus on the victims and their families AND on the potential victims you can be saving from harm. If not you are literally leading thousands upon thousands of lambs to be slaughtered.
Why allow our yiddishe neshomas to be karbonos just for the honor of those who deserve none? Please, please report any and all suspected and known child abuse and/or molestation to the police department so they can investigate and handle it properly. Do not allow even one more yiddishe neshoma to fall prey to the evil and destruction of those who have this disease and refuse to seek treatment instead of act on its vile impulses. Teach your kids what to watch out for. Teach your kids to yell for help. Teach your kids to run and scream. Teach your kids to talk to you and tell you EVERYTHING especially when someone tells them its a secret or someone threatens to hurt you or a family member. Talk to your schools and camps. Make sure they agree to be mandatory reporters. Don’t take NO for an answer and if you suspect something don’t talk it over with a RAV go straight to the police or your doctor. Your doctor will take the decision out of your hands and do the right thing for your child. For more info go to the JBAC website.