To mw13 or to whomever I’ve apparently inadvertently offended…
1. There’s a problem that most bochurim are naive and don’t realize what it’s like to raise a family and the financial responsibilities that it entails. They therefore go without a plan. If someone truly has a realistic plan (aside for draining their parents’ savings), wonderful. Otherwise, it’s pretty difficult to be qualified to do much without a degree. I’m not asking anyone to be like me.
2. I did NOT say “ALL boys enrolled in yeshiva are like that…”, I said “MANY who fit that ‘mold'”, so there’s certainly no stereotype. Don’t twist my words. It’s a fact that many of these girls end up dating those type of guys, there are no generalizations being made.
Of course I did not give them a spelling or grammar test. I was partially kidding about that, but my impression is based on various signs I’ve seen posted in yeshivos throughout the years (as well as many posts and comments on this site). Many are quite embarrassing.
3. I have a secret for you: I’m not modern, I actually spend my mornings in a kollel. Nice try. On the other hand, I have picked up (and read!) a college textbook in my lifetime, so perhaps I can’t consider myself Orthodox…