Honestly this loshon horah has gone far enough. Maybe the parents want them to learn for a while and this is the arrangement they made. We don’t know and WE should not be judging. IF the parents have nachas from them learning at whatever level they are, AND they choose to support them in that way, it is really WRONG to say these things and put them down. It is between the parents and the children what they choose to arrange.
Parent who do NOT wish to extend this honeymoon period to their kids SHOULD NOT do so. Parents who wish to check up how their funds are being used, should do so as well. The rest of us should mind our own business!!!!