SJS, I can’t resist the temptation.
Gafflige, I hope when you get married you, you can afford to have your own personal chef. I come from a sephardic background where the Women all pride themselves on their cooking skills and their hospitality. Most of the grandmothers did not even know how to read, yet somehow most managed to raise orthodox families.
As far as kiruv is concerned, most families involved in kiruv realize that good cooking brings people back to Yiddishkeit along with teaching them Torah, they invite the non-observant to their homes for Shabbats and Yom Tov meals so they can experience these special times. But let your husband do the teaching and you do the cooking. When your children see how you treat your guests and you show them all the Chesed that you are doing, that is Torah in it’s self that you are teaching to your children.