Reply To: What is the inyan of a mitzva tanz?

WIY, I can compile much more words of comfort from Chazal and Seforim. Indeed, being Menachem Avel isn’t just mumbling Hamakom Yenachem…, as Reb Moshe and many others say, you must actually console them with words. However, my suggestion is: don’t play psychiatrist. Don’t try to explain things the way you see it, they might be bothered or hurt because they looked at it from a different angle. I personally witnessed Chai Support and Misaskim and they’re really amazing. It doesn’t pay to try and experiment if you can make things worse.