“there arent Yeshivish and Modern Yeshivish people in that pool”
“there is no way to keep it kosher”
“many people end up crossing lines they wouldnt have “
Couldn’t disagree more. Not as strongly to each statement as the the next, but on the whole, this is something that can surely be done to everyone’s satisfaction. Try this:
Pick 2 shuls (other than your current one) you could see your self davening in. Start alternating davening there on shabbos, and get the rebbetzins to know you on a 1st name basis. Then, after 4 months, ask them, “do you know someone that would be a good shidduch for me?”
That way, she’ll she you’re consistant, persistant and erlich. How can that miss?
p.s. – This works for older boys too (just swap the rov for the rebbitzin)