willi, it’s very difficult to bring proof since, while guys have no problem telling me things they do, i highly doubt they’ll submit it in writing. i do think it’s worse on the men’s side, but the women do their fair share.
i don’t want divorcees to “stam azoi” be viewed with suspicion, but people that are in the parsha need to know what they may be dealing with. i also want to highlight how difficult it is for those ehrliche divorcees to find someone decent.