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I never insinuated that you werent a good mother all I was saying is that its important for parents to realize that they can send mixed messages. The fact is its the kids who pick up on that the parents dont even realize when they send mixed messages. Like if a father tells the kid to Daven in shul but he talks the whole time, thats a mixed message. If the parents have a TV in their bedroom but dont let the kid watch thats a mixed message. If the parents expect respect, but then bash other people at their table and say nasty things about Rabbonim or people they know, thats a big mixed message…
Parents have to be extremely vigilant that they arent crossing wires. The only way to know if you are guilty of this is to take a cold hard honest look at yourself in the mirror.
I dont know why my comment sent you off the handle but its clear to me that you obviously have some kind of guilty conscience and maybe feel responsible for your daughters pain. I dont know you so I dont know if those feelings are warranted or not. If they are warranted, you can always apologize and change. If they arent warranted, you can work on yourself to not beat yourself up over things that are out of your control and are not your fault.
Heres a disclaimer: You cant take things personally online. We are all anonymous and the purpose of these types of forums is the exchange of ideas. Nobody told you to make things personal. I never accused you of anything. You dont have to read any members comments and feel free to ignore all of mine. But you do yourself a disservice by taking anonymous peoples comments personally and out of context. I have nothing against you and Im sure you are a wonderful person, but the comments you wrote on my thread about my new “shtick” make it clear to me that I struck a nerve somehow and that you are upset with me. You had no right to open up personal attacks against me for my comments here. However I dont take it personally. I realize that you are the one who needs to learn how to take a breather and not take everything to heart. So please chill out and stop taking things personally when they werent meant that way.