cherrybim, I totally disagree with you. There are many schools that kids have been shipped off to out of town that have been extremely destructive to the child. Children do not need to be shipped off, they need the TLC that only a parent can give and every child and case is different.
As far as shunning therapists I disagree with that as well. No one knows who the best sheliach will be for any given child and who that child will click with to work out their problems. So each parent must decide according to the circumstances what THEY feel is best for the child not by the advice others give them, but by what they themselves feel they need to do for the benefit of their own child. And the first one they try may not be the best. A parent must learn to “listen to understand” their child and really hear them. They must work with the child until they find the right shiduch, even with a therapist.