Eclipse, you had me worried. I need you here and I am glad to see you back. And I am very happy that WIY understood that it was up to him to offer a sincere apology to bring you back.
WIY, i appreciate your apology as well, and hope that you learned something from this fiasco. Please notice when you post on various threads that many of us choose to skip them and not post because we don’t have knowledge and/or experience in those areas. We might ask questions at times but we don’t offer advice because we can’t it is an area that just doesn’t apply to us. For instance when you get into a discussion in Gemara or Talmud I am out of it as are many of the women because it is not in the realm of our knowledge or expertise and it would be foolish of us to offer an opinion.
A person does not need to know another person’s story, you just need to understand not to assume or jump to conclusions. You also need to understand that certain threads and certain posts are written for others to “listen to understand” and not to judge and analyze. That is when you put on your thinking cap before answering to figure out what the poster “needs from us”. Are they looking for chizuk, guidance, advice, etc. And that is when you check if you can answer the call. Do I have the knowledge and experience to help. That is different from posts that just ask for opinions or halachic answers.
You also need to understand the nature of people. Not everyone is like you. Even though you don’t take things personally, or comments don’t bother you, you can’t judge how other people will feel by your own barometer. You are very young and have not experienced what others have experienced. So people react differently than you do, and you can’t fault them for how they react to comments made to them, whether we know who they are or not. They know who they are and hurtful comments hurt, as you recently found out for yourself. You yourself thought it wouldn’t bother you but in the end you begged the moderators to close the thread. So I guess we can say lesson learned. Hatzlocha WIY, and lets move on from here with the knowledge we all gained.