“You dont know what I have been through as you dont know me. You have no idea what experience I have in what areas and one doesnt have to be married to give advice on marriage if ones advice is coming from books and lectures and not their own “ideas.”
Sorry to say that books and lectures are meant to help those who are married because they can apply what they are hearing or reading to what might be going on in their lives. People who are not married and are reading those books or hearing those lectures cannot really know if that advice holds true or not because they are not in a marriage relationship where they can honestly judge the value of the book or the lecture.
No one would go to a marriage therapist who is not married or one who is not married way longer than they are, because they do not have the experience needed to be trusted with the special care that person or that couple need. Even if they were at the top of their class. It is the experience and the knowledge along with the compassion that experience and that knowledge brings that counts.
So I disagree with you that because you read books and you go to lectures, you as a young single man can give advice on marriage. And by the same token, you are not in a position to give advice on parenting. You can give advice from a child’s perspective because you have experience there but you are not in a position to give advice from a parent’s perspective.
About your other comment. What may seem like “nothing” to you may not seem like “nothing” to someone else and that is the point I was trying to get across to you. It is called “POV” point of view or looking at things from a different perspective. Just because it doesn’t bother you, or it is a nothing to you, that doesn’t mean that others feel the same way. So if YOU would take a minute and take a step back or a step to the right or left of your opinion and read it a few times before you post it, to try to see how someone else might “read” your comment and feel about it, maybe you would tone it down or edit it so that no one would feel insulted or that it is a personal attack on them.
Every coin has two sides!