I know a woman who was redt a shidduch, and got married. The husband was physically abusive, and regularly beat her. They got divorced.
A few years later, she met a widower. They dated for a while, got married, and now have 7 or 8 children. She says if not for her first, horrible marriage, she would not have considered going out with her current husband. She had to go through hell to get to her husband – but she says it was worth it!