Why is it borderline, some things are just a matter of manners or etiquette. If I have you over for coffee do I pour or do you pour? Which fork do you use, which spoon? Do you stand up when your date leaves the table to go to the ladies room? Do you help her on with her coat or get it for her? Would you offer to open her snapple or soda bottle for her? Would you wait for her to order first?
There are some things that are just plain manners, etiquette, proper, call it what you will. Discuss it with your Rav or dating coach before you go out.