msseeker Suggested “If you recognize yourself here, read “Stop Walking On Eggshells”.
I am the spouse of someone who suffers from & with a BPD mother. I read the book
And when you read it you will learn among many other things
1)That you are unfortunately not alone, According to one of the coauthors 65000 people have revolved trough her web community from its founding in 1995 to the publishing of the book in 1998.
2)That there is not much you can do to help, you cannot change the patient. The will to get well must come from the patient.
And yes there are times when divorce is the only option such as in those case where there are children.
3)That there is a dearth of clinicians who understand the illness (at least at the time of writing)
4)The legal ramifications, custody, property, false accusations etc are horrendous and there too few lawyers equipped.
To see the American Psychiatric Association’s criteria go to