obviously this isn’t a fair system…generally you hope pple do care who they marry we are picking a life long marriage partner and yes..you should care and think about it b4 saying “I do”–yes to the shidduch… isn’t that common sense…the age part and the math aspect to shidduchim seems like a non issue…i don’t believe a singles should settle ever..they can compromise like he might not be your look but he’s everything else-which is in a lot of cases…
settling b/c otherwise your getting too old is horrible..in the name of many Gedolim- never settle or compromise on key issues..it’s better to get married older than have an unhappy and horrible marriage/ girls should have more confidence to say no i refuse to settle…i believe there’s someone out there for everyone …LIFE IS NOT A RACE!