mchemtob; Wow I really liked your post. You make a very valid
point about how stuck up some of us have become about what
Passes (yiddish) for us as a worthy Shidduch.
Trying my best; yeah they do have a chip on their shoulders
cuz they have very big shoes to fill.
Our Family has Yichus (as 95% of all jews do) but It was said
by our Holy Chassidishe Rebbes that if one comes from a choshuve yichus they should look for a family with similar lineage.
Of course this is only after research has been done to assure
the good middos and traits of the shidduch and family.
There is an Inyan of Invei Hagefen B’Invei Hagefen etc..
However the most important thing remains the actual shidduch
and family.
Ppl whos main focus is Yichus or similar social status etc..
will have only themselves to blame later when it will really cause them to worry about how it will sound to the neighbors.