Miamigirl: and you wonder why so many young couples dabble in redding shidduchim and then quit. When people are treated like failures, feel like failures, they quit. If the young people, especially relatively newly marrieds, who tried and got some dates going where appreciated for their time and effort they would stick with it and girls (especiall slighlty older ones) would be getting much much more attention.
This is not about Shadchanim “as in proffesinals”, this is simply a effective way to generate far more people paying attention to the slighlty older girls.
I don’t know about you but getting to a date number four is not easy at all. if you think any silly idea get there, well it doesn’t.
Goq: probaly means that they will realize they were appreciated for the time and effort they extended. when treated like that most humans reciprocate. As opposed to quiting or focusing on the people who don’t aprreciate and aren’t thankful for the time you spent on them.