Hey, I’ll take comical over combatative any day.
I forgot that the community pays, and not the individual. Is that even if it’s a friend or someone else who makes the shidduch, not a community-connected pro? And what of the people who do a private shidduch and really don’t want the community people to know that they’re going out; they’d like to keep it quiet.
Again, I know of communities that have hired shadchanim. I’m curious how they operate. I really don’t think they require the families sacrificing their privacy if they don’t want anyone besides the two parties and the shadchan knowing.
Please, spell things out for us. We’re a bit thick, some of us.