Reply To: Learning vs. working

If this is not the type lifestyle your sister wants, under no circumstances should she accept such shidduchim. She will likely NOT feel differently about it after marriage, if she marries a kollel guy.She will resent being in that position. Better to work at a job that affords some flexibility of working hours, so she can take off the time for hasving children and raising them at home, and then go back to work either part-time or full-time, when it becomnes necessary. This presupposes that her husband will do what is required of him by the kesubah, and work to support her.