bjjkid, you are very lucky that you came out of a divorce and a remarriage/blended family OK. Halevai others were as lucky as you. Unfortunately not ALL parents care what is “BEST” for the kids and only care what is “BEST” for them. Their reasoning being “Aren’t I entitled to be happy?” Sure you are but only after you make sure your kids are happy and healthy. And that takes a lot of love and healing. Kids need to feel safe and secure before you make any further steps in your own life. Obviously your parents and step-parents were very considerate of you and your siblings best interests. And that is a lesson many of today’s parents can learn from them.
Just one more thing. Even though young children may not be old enough to know what’s best for them or old enough to have a say THEY SHOULD ALWAYS BE TAKEN INTO THE CHESBON!