I don’t think it is so much about compromise as it is about realizing what is important and what isn’t. When you find the right person you realize that the things on your list really doesn’t matter. When you find the right zivig height is not really an issue and neither is weight or looks for that matter. To you he is tall enough even though he didn’t match your initial criteria. To you she is thin enough even though she didn’t match your initial criteria. To you s/he is very attractive even though your friends might not think so. YOU can always change from the outside in, but it is so much more difficult to change from the inside out.
So a person can lose or gain a few pounds, change the heel height on their shoes or wear a hat or not, get contacts or change glasses, learn how to put on makeup or buy clothes that suit them better, etc. But you can’t change a person’s personality or midos and that is much more important.