1818,
Hashem yerachem! But I don’t understand your point; if someone who earns 200K and still suffers from needing help, why would that recommend working full time? Either way, your going to suffer (unless you’re in the 3% or so who earn more than 200k); might as well learn, if that’s your ambition anyway!
Anyhow, many people who support their children do it in a completely non-controlling way. See posts above; this is also, in my experience, very common.