automatically think the person is more modern (I guess you can say less religious in their eyes)
In what way does “modern” mean less religious. You’re using a computer to type these posts. I presume you have no problem using automobiles, CD players (assuming kosher content, of course), microwave ovens, GPS devices or cellular telephones (with or without texting, internet, etc.).
Does the use of these of these “modern” devices make one “modern?” And, if not, what is it that is “modern” about those whom you perceive to be less religious (and how do you define “less religious”)?
I’m not trying to put you “on the spot,” Miamigirl, but I really would like to have these terms defined… at least as you perceive them (since you were the one who asked the question).
So if there is a girl/guy that wears jeans, should this stop a shidduch from continuing because its not the standard of a religious person even though some do?
That’s a completely different question than asking if something is wrong with it. There are perfectly legitimate reasons to not continue with a shidduch even for things that are perfectly moral and otherwise acceptable.
The Wolf