mytake: Welcome(, though I’m pretty new here as well.)
Pre-1. I think its extremely important to have a good conversation with a Rov/Rebbe/competent mentor in addition to getting all the good advice here.
1. I think you can, if your life-goals are clear to yourself.
2. Depends on what type of references and how you ask the questions. best is if you find someone you know who’s close enough to them to know or find out accurate info.
May you find your zivug very soon