psach libi bsorasecha: Please realize that once engaged, and spending lots of time together or talking, may lead to frustration. If you got engaged, you want to be and behave married. When you spend lots of time together you end feeling frustrated at not being married yet, which at times, leads to feeling frustrated at being engaged or at the perceived source of the frustration, the choson/kallah.
People don’t remember what they were told, they remember how they felt/feel