The one takonoh I would like to see enforced is a maximum # of people invited (say 300). Not seats, not meals. Invitations printed. If I don’t know about it, I don’t need to come.
That way, I could be “excused” for not going to my cousin’s daughter’s son’s vort / wedding.
Not that I have anything against my cousin, his daughter or the chosson, but that level of relative (plus the 50+ invitations I get frommass mailings) opens me up to 100’s of weddings a year, and opens the mechutonim to 100s of $ in food “for the just in case” people that might show up.
It would also cut down the “Jones” competetion, which sad to admit is very much alive and kicking in our world