Deflections like yours above do not add anything to the conversation.
On the contrary, if someone is going to later use the question posited here as “Aha, see, that proves that having a kesher with a rav is an indicator for successful marriages…” then those terms must be defined, or else the question is meaningless.
Is as if you ask “Are the Yankees good?” You have to define what you mean by “Yankees” (this year’s team, the last decade, all-time?) and you have to define “good” (winning record, make the playoffs, win the World Series…). Without those definitions, the question itself is meaningless.
Of course defines a kesher as admiraiton of a rav. Well, I admire my rav and I admire my mesader kiddushin, but I don’t call them terribly often and I don’t socialize with them very often. Does that count? I’m sure most couples have some rav they admire, but is that enough?
The Wolf