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I agree with you.
I was not suggesting that young people “put off marriage for YEARS l’hitbonen”.
Young men WILL spend some serious time to investigate what yeshiva (and/or college) to go to. They will look at literature about a school, talk to others who learn or learned there, visit the place, meet rabanim, etc.
Isn’t investigating YOURSELF at least as important?
What I am suggesting is that young people spend SOME time, a few months (at least a few weeks) in some serious, HONEST introspection about what they want for themselves for the future, what kind of a life, where geographically, what source of parnassa, etc. What kind of life do they see themselves living ten years down the road? Sure, they may have some changes of mind as time goes on, but develop some type of plan and path for yourself.
My thought is, how can you know who is right for YOU, when you don’t even know who YOU are?