I know this is a sore subject, but I would think a school would want to make sure that they are not being taken advantage of, just like you would want someone whom you gave tzedaka to should be “checked out”.
GAW… I fully understand the need to make sure that the family is on the level. However, I was just giving an example of a situation where I felt it was too invasive and too much of a breach of privacy.
The Wolf