Can you not read? There wasn’t an issue. She was not dating anyone at the time. It was not her place to make the decision. It was her place to tell the boy that she was dating that this was our shita and he would let his parents know. He had the same opportunity to tell his parents he doesn’t want to lose the shidduch as much as she did.
We are NOT chasidish. She did NOT date Chasidish boys, and so this was NOT an issue. It was our mechutanim’s first chasunah as well and they felt the same way.
What exactly is your problem? Have you made a wedding yet? We have made three B”H and had no problems.