Men adn women are not supposed to be romantick even with theyre wives. Ezra made a takana that men shouldnt be aitzel nishosayhem ktarnegolim and pirkey avos sez the same thing. Husbands and wives are partners not friends not boyfriend and girlfreind or even romantic partners.
Moshe dear, please define “romantic”, just for the sake of clarity. It seems that not everyone defines it the same way.