This goes back almost 20 years…..
In Rockville Center LI there was a cafe called Timepiece Cafe. A friend of mine ALWAYS went there on a first date. In the space of a week he went with three different girls and the 3rd time, the guy at the coat check exclaimed “you have to teach me your tricks bro, three different good looking girls in one week”.
“You have to be yourself”
Ditto. You can not and should not worry about what they want you to be like. You simply must be yourself.