Hey, this is funny. I had a wedding last night where it was hard having my knees totally covered at all times, and I debated whether I should open a thread in here about this issue. My friend gave me some chizzuk. Here’s basically what she said:
There is halacha, and then there’s something called “giving a look.” It’s the halacha that our knees be covered AT ALL TIMES. When your skirt covers your knees but, it just “looks short”, well, that’s when we’ve gotta use our Binah Yeseira Hashem has granted us.
Y’know, tznius is just plain using your senses. We had a bochur at our shabbos table this past shabbos, and I felt uncomfortable serving the men while he was there. I wouldn’t have felt that way a year ago or even a few months ago. It’s all about keeping your eyes open. Before putting on a short skirt, think: “What would any bochur/yungerman think when he sees this? What kind of thoughts will cross his mind? How can I be responsible for this??”
And of course, keep in mind that Lefum Tzara Agra. The harder it is, the more Schar you’ll get. Hatzlacha!! (For me too…)