it sounds to me like you’re doing the right thing, but…. it’s very important to have da’as torah, for now and for the future. are you going to any shiurim and is there or do you know of a rebetzin that you respect/admire and can understand you and where you’re coming from? now is a great time to establish a relationship with a rebetzin, so when you’re married you have someone to ask questions to.
easiest time to establish a relationship is when you’re single. ask if you can help them on thursday night or erev shabbos? or if they have any time to talk? i’m close to 2 chashuve rebetzins and because i established the relationship when i was single, got close enough to them that they’ll take time to answer me, call me back, etc. even though they’re both so busy and don’t do that with everyone.
Good luck and choose someone whom you admire and who could understand you and has access to da’as torah. (like husband or family is close to gedolim or big people). look around. every community has some people who are really good at understanding things and giving good advice.