How much were you going to give her already $500.00? If you’re just going to give her a dollar or two (or 5), what’s the big deal. If your heart breaks for her, so give her the money, what, do you think you’re going to get zapped or something?
It’s degrading for a person collecting to have someone scrutinize his Ishur and then give the guy only a dollar. How many collectors do you think are frauds anyway, 10%, 20% or even 30%? In business you wouldn’t take a 30% risk on your investment?
If your writing a check for a substantial amount, fine, scrutinize the ishur, the Meshulach is proud to show it to you.