Imagine you can offer an engaged couple, right after they got engaged, that Eliyahu Hanovie will take care of all their wedding arraignments within two weeks, including invites, every detail of the hall, dress, residence etc etc. Do you know of any couple that would not want to get married at the end of two weeks?
I’d say 90%+ would want to get married ASAP. Simply, arraignments take time, and we usually don’t have Eliyahu offering his full services in this way.
Now, since the couple would preferably married, rather than engaged, spending excessive amounts of time together will highlight the fact that they’re only engaged, and not married.
This breeds frustration. Desires for marriage and what it entails become unnaturally strong, but since we’re limited, we become frustrated at the situation.
Before long though, the frustration shifts from the situation to the person bringing the frustration.
Too much time together during engagement can be a root for a rocky start.
On the other hand, the dating period should be taken seriously, and should not be needlessly rushed, at all.