we did it in June, B’H.. it was @ the very end & most people were gone.
for the first two weddings we had a mitzva tantz, when my father-in-law was still alive… in ‘the year’ for my mother-in-law, a’h.
for the 3rd wedding we made last year, the machatunim didn’t hold by mitza tantz, & we were so burnt out from the wedding preps that we didn’t mind not having one either; plus, my DH said that his father’s not with us anymore anyhow.
the mezinka was done by all 4 of our children & 4 grandchildren.. they had alot of fun. afterwards, I did a little sweep. it was basically done @ the end of the affair, when a mitza tantz would’ve been done.
I don’t see anything wrong with you having it, but if you choose not to, I’m sure that’ll be fine, too. I can’t imagine, tho’, that your friends would begrudge you doin’ the clean sweep, cuz if they’re in attendance, then they know you’re marrying off your last child & I would hope, would be happy for you.
would it be causing them any more pain then the mere fact that you’re marrying off a child?! .. JMHO