DY – “In which case, the parents could have refused then and turned down the shidduch. If they chose to go ahead with it, they shouldn’t complain now. (And I don’t think this is common either.)”
I definitely agree! Noone should be forced to give what they don’t want to. Why do I say forced? Because some people aren’t like me and feel if they don’t give into everything that’s demanded, their child won’t get married. They even resort to lying or wishful thinking (that one day they will be able to afford it) to give into the other side’s DEMANDS!