Minyan gal, do you have a chevra of like-minded women and families? Anyone who’s grown with you similarly since you were a kid? I have to admit not personally knowing too many non O people; one family I know of, middle aged, granparents already, had traditional parents, kosher in the home, davened in a (close to nominally, but kosher) Orthodox shul, and had 10 hours a week of Talmud Torah staffed by top notch educators peddling authenticity. They themselves (the ones who didn’t stay with NCSY and become frum) only buy from kosher butchers, don’t mix meat and milk. I don’t know what they offered their kids, definitely not a full time immersion like a day school, and I include Solomon Schecthter, but I don’t think they even had options like they grew up. Their kids, now parents of their own, are nowhere near as observant, knowledgeable, or affiliated.
In the Orthodox community, good parents know their kids won’t be clones, and will find what and who animates them, but the Judaism they practice will be fully compatible with what they grew up. This is sustainability, and I have to wonder if you see it on your end.
OK, enough rambling. Back to Shabbos (for both of us 😉