Oy. Observanteen. As a participant in those discussions, I can clarify what my point was at least, and what I believed to be the topic at hand.
People asked “What does this X represent?”
Others and I responded that we disagreed with the premise of the whole question (and many of the comments that followed– one comes to mind where a girl called it chutzpa to come meet her father without a hat), which implies that one’s levush inherently means anything, or is a definitive legitimate way to draw conclusions about someone’s level of frumkeit.
By citing examples I guess posters hoped to establish their point that neither side is black and white, no pun intended. (well maybe a little bit)