“even if an abuser has not been abused there is something causing him to hurt another person.”
Every person was once mistreated in her/his life. What kind of excuse is this?? There are ppl out there who have BAD MIDDOS. Simple! We all have a million excuses to go OTD, abuse others, make fun of others etc. etc. But we have a Torah. We are Yidden. We cannot do whatever we FEEL like doing. Abusers WILL be held responsible for their actions! Unless of course they’re mentally ill. I’m not exactly sure HOW they’ll be punished, cuz I’m not sure whether they’re doing what they’re doing out of mishugaas or out of cruelty. In any case, I’m not here to say how one should be punished. My point is, we all have challenges. We all have trying times. THIS IS NOT AN EXCUSE TO ABUSE OTHERS.