Many friends of mine have been discussing for the past 3 weeks about the fact that they are dreading Pesach… it is very hard.
SENSITIVITY at a normal level is really all that is wanted.
They want to see your kids… they dont want it in their face.
They want to be treated normal…
They DONT want to be stuck babysitting your kids or doing all the work arounf the house cuz all the mommy and tatty siblings are busy with their kids and cant help. They dont want to be stuck cleaning up after you and your kids b/c of the same reason.
They want to be acknowledged and not made nebuch.
whatever you do… DO NOT ASK QUESTIONS about their personal life and if they have been to a Dr and anything like that. Trust me- if they want to share it they will. My policy in life (not just infertility but in all sitch) is I dont ask questions abt ur life- but I am here to listen and be a shoulder to lean on if you need to talk.
My sister married many years no kids, got pregnant and lost the kid in 6th month, we all wanted to know info and be there for her but we were careful not to probe. and she confided in me that the worst feeling she has is when ppl come and bring it up, or give her hugs and mussar and “chizuk” and all the stuff she didnt ask for. Just move on and have a regular conversation and thats it!
If you are a sibling YOUNGER than your older sibling of IF and have kids, your sibling doesnt hate you (prob. loves you) but it is very hard. Still be sensitive yet dont hide things from them. give them the respect of an older sibling.
Have a good Yom tov! Hope nobody has to dread Yomtov this year!
Original Poster— it is very kind of you to be concerned and ask so that you can be there for your sibling! Kol Hakavod!