my heart breaks for all these couples! may they all have a yeshua fast!
i don’t think it’s nice to say “i know what you feel like/i can just imagine your pain!”.
because you really can’t! every situation is different and there is no way you can understand or truly know what tzar they are in!
the best is if you just say ” i can’t even imagine how hard this is for you. if i can be of any help please let me know”!
may hashem have rachmonos on all of klal yisroel and may we all be zoche to the guela shlayma soon!