“by romance, i think people mean – make it romantic – showing the girl that you care about her, etc. – which means buying her chocolate, flowers, etc.”
I agree (that this is the definition that most people have of romance or romancing), but I think it’s wrong. Why should how much somebody cares about you have to be expressed with money? Why can’t you judge how much he cares about you from the way he treats you? Why do girls seem to need to have money thrown at them in order to be convinced a guy likes them? Weren’t you all just blasting judging things by externals in the “shidduchim and weight” topic?