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StuffedCabbage: What you’re saying is very vague. What do you mean I can’t say it can work now a days? Does it seem to you like the system we have is working? Perhaps for the select few shidduchim that have been made, but what about the thousands of aging others who feel trapped by a system beyond their control? Saying that the system that the avos and imahos used and chazal implored us to emulate is “not for our generation” is like saying that shabbos is not for our generation, or kosher is not for our generation, or meseches kiddushin is not for our generation. If you’re going to be a reformer, fine, but at least be upfront about your laxity towards reform, and don’t treat the prevailing system of shidduchim like torah misinai.